New Jersey Adoption Resource Clearing House

FREE!

Join us for this sacred gathering recognizing the profound loss experienced when lost loved ones are found, or longed for, and then lost again. Some losses don’t have a funeral. Some grief doesn’t have a name.

Twice Lost Remembrance Day is a 90-minute online gathering created specifically for those who have experienced a particular kind of double loss — the loss of a relationship through adoption, foster care, donor conception, a DNA surprise, or any other form of genetic separation, and then the loss of that person to death.

This space is for the birthparent whose relinquished child has died. It is for the adoptee who searched for their biological family and found a grave instead of a person. For the person who discovered through a DNA test that they had a parent, sibling, or child they never knew and then lost the chance to ever truly know them. For the sibling who never got to grow up alongside their brother or sister and then lost the chance to ever know them at all. For the NPE who finally had a name, faces, a story only to have that door close forever. For those who carried a living absence for years, only to have that absence becomes permanent because of death.

Together, we will light candles, speak names, give language to a grief that our culture rarely makes room for, and be witnessed in our loss — perhaps for the very first time.